Character Defect or Just Plain Laziness?
I'm trying really hard to not point out other peoples flaws in this cruel world of ours. But I have a go get 'em attitude and hardly even sit down during the day. I awake at 5:15 get ready for work, drive 1 hour to get there and finally start my day. I am at work for at least 9 hours and drive another hour home. Seldom do I stop on my way to or from work because I feel there is so much to do at both places. Well, yesterday I did stop on my way home to take care of an errand so my children's hamster didn't have to live in "those" conditions any longer. While I was at Petsmart I picked up some catnip bubbles and a fuschia irridescent feathery mouse, my source of entertainment for about 15 minutes.
My husband had decided that he wanted to take the kids to the park for a picnic for supper. Ummmm, let's suffice it to say, I'm not a sandwich kind of person. It'll do in a pinch, but generally they disgust me. I recommended mexican food, my favorite. So we loaded up in the car and headed to the daycare to pick up the 4 year old. (already 12 hours into my day) On the way there one of my friends called in a pinch and asked if I could pick up her 4 year old too. Not a problem, I like to help people when needed. It makes me feel good. That's what friends are for, to help each other out. So now the 5 of us go out to eat.
On the way home, I call my friend back and ask her if she wants me to pick up her older child from another friends house and then I go pick her up too. She is the same age as my older child and she is very sweet. So both children now have someone to play with and I can possibly watch some uninterupted television. Wrong!
You see, my husband who has had 2 short term sources of income in the past 2 years and 4 months is filling out an application for employment for a law enforcement job. Nevermind that he has had this application for at least 2 weeks, but it is due today. Mad dash ensues, he's grumpy because he has, yet again, waited until the last minute to take care of stuff. You would think I would be used to this. I don't think I will ever be used to this. A law enforcement employment application is about 20 pages long, they want to know everyone you've ever known so they can call ALL of them and ask questions about you. They even want to know names and addresses of step-siblings. Not as if he hangs out with them, we don't even know their phone numbers. So, the question is character defect or just plain laziness? I'm not sure. Most of the time, he'll put off doing things until I just can't stand it anymore and then I take care of it. He says that procrastination is one of the things he dislikes most about himself, but never does anything different. I just don't get it. I can't see the light of day for being so dang busy all the time, but he can't see the work that needs to be done because he doesn't see the light of day. Meaning - the only time he leaves the house is when it is something that entertains him. Pig hunting, fishing..... He will mow, occasionally. Weedeating and edging regularly keeps you outside for too long, away from the t.v. and the internet. We have no flower bed because I don't have time to take care of it and he refuses to. At what point do you decide the only way this is going to get done is if I get started. That's what I wake up saying everymorning at 5:15 and I go to sleep around 10:30 saying, there is still so much more to be done. When will I get some relief? When will he see that his character defects have more of an affect on everyone around him than he thinks?
God, I need some help! Please give me some relief? Help is coming in the form of a counselor.
My husband had decided that he wanted to take the kids to the park for a picnic for supper. Ummmm, let's suffice it to say, I'm not a sandwich kind of person. It'll do in a pinch, but generally they disgust me. I recommended mexican food, my favorite. So we loaded up in the car and headed to the daycare to pick up the 4 year old. (already 12 hours into my day) On the way there one of my friends called in a pinch and asked if I could pick up her 4 year old too. Not a problem, I like to help people when needed. It makes me feel good. That's what friends are for, to help each other out. So now the 5 of us go out to eat.
On the way home, I call my friend back and ask her if she wants me to pick up her older child from another friends house and then I go pick her up too. She is the same age as my older child and she is very sweet. So both children now have someone to play with and I can possibly watch some uninterupted television. Wrong!
You see, my husband who has had 2 short term sources of income in the past 2 years and 4 months is filling out an application for employment for a law enforcement job. Nevermind that he has had this application for at least 2 weeks, but it is due today. Mad dash ensues, he's grumpy because he has, yet again, waited until the last minute to take care of stuff. You would think I would be used to this. I don't think I will ever be used to this. A law enforcement employment application is about 20 pages long, they want to know everyone you've ever known so they can call ALL of them and ask questions about you. They even want to know names and addresses of step-siblings. Not as if he hangs out with them, we don't even know their phone numbers. So, the question is character defect or just plain laziness? I'm not sure. Most of the time, he'll put off doing things until I just can't stand it anymore and then I take care of it. He says that procrastination is one of the things he dislikes most about himself, but never does anything different. I just don't get it. I can't see the light of day for being so dang busy all the time, but he can't see the work that needs to be done because he doesn't see the light of day. Meaning - the only time he leaves the house is when it is something that entertains him. Pig hunting, fishing..... He will mow, occasionally. Weedeating and edging regularly keeps you outside for too long, away from the t.v. and the internet. We have no flower bed because I don't have time to take care of it and he refuses to. At what point do you decide the only way this is going to get done is if I get started. That's what I wake up saying everymorning at 5:15 and I go to sleep around 10:30 saying, there is still so much more to be done. When will I get some relief? When will he see that his character defects have more of an affect on everyone around him than he thinks?
God, I need some help! Please give me some relief? Help is coming in the form of a counselor.
posted by AmyLee at 5:12 AM
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