Are you a Cheerleader?

After almost 12 1/2 years of marriage, I finally did it. I'm not saying it was ALL bad, just a lot of it. There was probably more bad than good. Anyway, what I finally did was file for divorce on Monday. Now for the most part, I am not an advocate of divorce. I hate that I have to hurt anyone, especially my children (age 9 and 4). He's been out of the house since the 18th of August and Daughter #2 is still asking when he's coming home. That's when it's the hardest. How do you explain to a 4 year old what is happening? You really can't. The amazing thing is that since the filing, he and I have reached a new level. He finally grasps the concept that the relationship is no longer about us, but the kids. I have no relationship with him other than dealing with the things that come up about the children. As long as there is no finger pointing, we get along just fine. He kinda half-finger pointed, you know the knuckle point, yesterday, but I backed him down. After all this is over, I may want to be an attorney after all. Pretty much, if you keep your nose clean and he's got skeleton's, you're good. I mean, I go out dancing and have fun with my friends and stuff, but I'm not really doing anything any other newly separated person hasn't done, right? It's not like I'm in the market for a replacement spouse, heck, I don't think I'll ever be in the market for that again. They can hurt you way too bad, if you let down that wall.

So, from now on there is no more dobber-ball or whack-a-dobber, or any hillbilly sport going on at my home. Yee-haw!!!