To be single, or not to be single????

For those of you that don't know me, I am in a bit of a dilemma. I have kicked my unemployed, uninjured, completely capable husband, out of my home. He tells me he still loves me and is still completely devoted to me and will come back whenever I say (in one breath). Then he will say things like, the longer you drag this out, the easier it's gettin' for me to not be nice to you (in the next breath). What he doesn't realize, is that I consider the latter an ultimatum. For those of you that may read my blog and are fellow control freaks, these types of actions do not result in positive results, now do they? I want to be civil to him, nice even, because not only am I a control freak, but I am also co-dependent (big time). I don't want to hurt other people and hurt myself in spite.